Comments on: My Ego’s Always Getting in the Way http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/ Japan, Gaming, Anime Sat, 20 Mar 2010 10:52:04 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Deb Estep http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/comment-page-1/#comment-27426 Deb Estep Fri, 18 Jan 2008 11:43:56 +0000 http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/#comment-27426 Ops by putting around your comment that made it disappear. I meant, this comment. "Each encounter is an opportuntity to learn about ourselves and our reflex reactions. If we believe being dispondant rather than compassionate is wrong and even disrespectful, then what does it say about us when we struggle to forgive and show compassion to such people?" Ops by putting around your comment that made it disappear.

I meant, this comment.

“Each encounter is an opportuntity to learn about ourselves and our reflex reactions. If we believe being dispondant rather than compassionate is wrong and even disrespectful, then what does it say about us when we struggle to forgive and show compassion to such people?”

]]> By: Deb Estep http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/comment-page-1/#comment-27425 Deb Estep Fri, 18 Jan 2008 11:41:57 +0000 http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/#comment-27425 Kristen did go to a medical center. My daughter did not know all the details, but apparently she was found to be anemic. She worked last night with Nicole and seemed to be okay. Thank you Liara for this comment... <> xo xo Deb Kristen did go to a medical center. My daughter
did not know all the details, but apparently she was found to be anemic. She worked last night with Nicole and seemed to be okay.

Thank you Liara for this comment…

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xo xo
Deb

]]> By: Charles Hamel http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/comment-page-1/#comment-27412 Charles Hamel Fri, 18 Jan 2008 03:18:41 +0000 http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/#comment-27412 Thanks for your comment Liara What a awesome way to help someone without them knowing they are being helped. That is a great description of reverse psychology if I have ever heard of one. I am glad it worked out for her, and you will be rewarded also. What can be better by helping others while helping yourself. Love and Light Thanks for your comment Liara

What a awesome way to help someone without them knowing they are being helped. That is a great description of reverse psychology if I have ever heard of one.

I am glad it worked out for her, and you will be rewarded also. What can be better by helping others while helping yourself.

Love and Light

]]> By: Liara Covert http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/comment-page-1/#comment-27410 Liara Covert Fri, 18 Jan 2008 01:09:57 +0000 http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/#comment-27410 Each encounter is an opportuntity to learn about ourselves and our reflex reactions. If we believe being dispondant rather than compassionate is wrong and even disrespectful, then what does it say about us when we struggle to forgive and show compassion to such people? One of my own ego lessons occurred as the result of meeting and interacting with a very negative woman. She was someone I couldn't avoid entirely although initially, this would've been my preference. Something deep within my soul, perhaps due to how much I care for this woman's child, prompted me to phone her and to visit relatively regularly. I came to learn that her negativity stemmed from never having been shown real love or compassion. She was only projecting how she felt about herself. I invited her to help edit a motivational book I was writing. She has since evolved in very positive directions as the result of being shown through example the power of love can take different forms but begins within. Each encounter is an opportuntity to learn about ourselves and our reflex reactions. If we believe being dispondant rather than compassionate is wrong and even disrespectful, then what does it say about us when we struggle to forgive and show compassion to such people?

One of my own ego lessons occurred as the result of meeting and interacting with a very negative woman. She was someone I couldn’t avoid entirely although initially, this would’ve been my preference. Something deep within my soul, perhaps due to how much I care for this woman’s child, prompted me to phone her and to visit relatively regularly. I came to learn that her negativity stemmed from never having been shown real love or compassion. She was only projecting how she felt about herself. I invited her to help edit a motivational book I was writing. She has since evolved in very positive directions as the result of being shown through example the power of love can take different forms but begins within.

]]> By: Charles Hamel http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/comment-page-1/#comment-27401 Charles Hamel Thu, 17 Jan 2008 19:17:14 +0000 http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/#comment-27401 Hi Deb Thank you for your wonderful comment! Wow what a story.... Unfortunately I have to deal with people just like you mentioned on a daily basis, and most of the time I really feel pity for them. I know in the long run they will have to work out their own Karmic consequences, but it is a shame to be so self centered. That is exactly why I write the articles that I do, to try and give all of us a nudge in the right direction. Egotistical 3rd density thinking keeps us chained to this physical earth. I don't know about all of you, but I don't want to be stuck here forever. Take Care and hope you visit often, as I will to your Blog. Hi Deb

Thank you for your wonderful comment!

Wow what a story…. Unfortunately I have to deal with people just like you mentioned on a daily basis, and most of the time I really feel pity for them. I know in the long run they will have to work out their own Karmic consequences, but it is a shame to be so self centered.

That is exactly why I write the articles that I do, to try and give all of us a nudge in the right direction. Egotistical 3rd density thinking keeps us chained to this physical earth.

I don’t know about all of you, but I don’t want to be stuck here forever.

Take Care and hope you visit often, as I will to your Blog.

]]> By: Deb Estep http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/comment-page-1/#comment-27394 Deb Estep Thu, 17 Jan 2008 13:50:49 +0000 http://charleshamel.com/2008/01/16/my-egos-always-getting-in-the-way/#comment-27394 Hello Charles, MAN..... I am so very happy that you reached out to me via email. Reading your blog feels like finding a long lost bro. :) Just this morning my daughter related a story of something that happened at her place of work last night. She's a server in a rather 'upscale' restaurant. One of her co workers, Kristen, a young woman in her very early 20's collapsed at work last night. Kristen passed out and hit her head on the side of a counter. She lost consciousness for a few seconds, tried to stand and then passed out again. A call was made to 911 immediately. 4 EMS and 2 policemen came through the front door of the facility and went to the kitchen area where they had taken the young woman. Another server went around to Kristen's tables to access and make sure what was needed at each one. All of the customers except one party were highly concerned for her well being. The one group immediately said to their replacement server.... "Will this affect our order" ? "Why in the world did they have to come through the front door, couldn't they have just comet through the kitchen area to attend to her"??? Since their order had just been taken by Kristen, the other server went over the hand written notes to confirm their order. AND.......... wouldn't you know it, their order still arrived not quite right. The table raised such a fuss, with absolutely no concern at all for the server's health. Their $90 bill was reduced to $30 and they left a very disgraceful tip. IF the ego of the spokesperson for that table had just taken a slight backseat to themselves, perhaps a bit of humanity might have shown through. My job this morning was in calming my daughter down. Nicole is 25. I explained to her that she was allowing those people to get to her. I pointed out that the majority of Kristen's tables were caring and concerned as I am certain the majority of everyone who witnessed the event was too. Nicole said that Kristen refused to be transported to the hospital. We don't know the entire outcome, but another server was planning on taking her home to his house where is Mom is a nurse of over 30 years. Hopefully the mom would have highly encouraged her to get to the hospital. I had not thought about ego in context to this event until I read your post. Again... thanks for dropping by and for the connection to your site. Warmly Deb Estep Hello Charles,

MAN….. I am so very happy that you reached out to me via email. Reading your blog feels like finding a long
lost bro. :)

Just this morning my daughter related a story of something that happened at her place of work last night.
She’s a server in a rather ‘upscale’ restaurant. One of her co workers, Kristen, a young woman in her very early 20’s collapsed at work last night.
Kristen passed out and hit her head on the side of a counter. She lost consciousness for a few seconds, tried to stand and then passed out again.
A call was made to 911 immediately.

4 EMS and 2 policemen came through the front door of the facility and went to the kitchen area where they had taken the young woman.

Another server went around to Kristen’s tables to access and make sure what was needed at each one. All of the customers except one party were highly concerned for her well being.
The one group immediately said to their replacement server….
“Will this affect our order” ?
“Why in the world did they have to come
through the front door, couldn’t they have just comet through the kitchen area to attend to her”???
Since their order had just been taken by Kristen, the other server went over the hand written notes to confirm their order.
AND………. wouldn’t you know it, their order still arrived not quite right.
The table raised such a fuss, with absolutely no concern at all for the server’s health.
Their $90 bill was reduced to $30 and they left a
very disgraceful tip.

IF the ego of the spokesperson for that table had just taken a slight backseat to themselves, perhaps a bit of humanity might have shown through.

My job this morning was in calming my daughter down. Nicole is 25.
I explained to her that she was allowing those people to get to her. I pointed out that the majority of Kristen’s tables were caring and concerned as I am certain the majority of everyone who witnessed the event was too.

Nicole said that Kristen refused to be transported to the hospital.
We don’t know the entire outcome, but another server was planning on taking her home to his house where is Mom is a nurse of over 30 years. Hopefully the mom would have highly encouraged her to get to the hospital.

I had not thought about ego in context to this event
until I read your post.

Again… thanks for dropping by and for the
connection to your site.

Warmly
Deb Estep

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