Living from the heart, truly, constitutes a shift in behavior. Sometimes our ego just needs to take a step back and take a lesson from our higher selves. We don’t necessarily need to remove it from who we are, but we need to be able to take a step back from it long enough to see how we are reacting to something, and see the opportunity for growth right then and there.

This is not easy to do, because we are brought up in such a knee jerk reaction society. But we have a choice: we can react, or we can STOP and LOOK at what is front of us, what we are reacting to, and see it as an opportunity to grow and learn from what is causing disharmony within us. Why do we react so quickly to such things? What is it that we really don’t agree with or can’t seem to find our way past or understand? It may be that we feel a need to be right all the time, and get our feathers ruffled when someone disrespects that feeling. I wrote about this in a post entitled “Would you Rather Be Right or Happy“.

When we feel our opinion has been disrespected, that is when the ego jumps in and starts making judgments. When we find people not agreeing with us, and what we feel is true for our selves, we think they are dumb or stupid or ignorant or better yet unenlightened. This is dangerous, because that is a monster that we feed, and we start to harbor that poison which turns into intolerance, anger, hatred, etc. All the goodies from yours truly-the ego.

When we start to live from the heart, this is not possible to do. We can only love, and teach that which we feel, only love. When we begin to catch our Ego’s from getting in the way, we can realize we have a choice: knee jerk or Love. But this is hard work. All are chosen, but few will choose. This is the opportunity we have to choose love, over ego. When we look at what the ego does and how it has been working for us in our life’s, we know it is much easier to be ignorant, versus opening our eyes and seeing the real truth.

I have been on the path for the past 15 years working on who I am, and continue to fight the battle of the Ego. We as workers in the light have an amazing opportunity to change this world and turn things around. Teach only love, for that is what we truly are.

Of course it is much easier to choose the ego, have knee jerk reactions and stay in the dark, feeling and feeding off of our own toxins and poisons because we think it serves us to be disgusted with people who do not feel and/or believe the same way that we do. Why does this type of behavior continue? Because we are still trying to learn how to do this the right way without messing ourselves, or others up in the process. When we react and spread our ego-poison, others can be affected because the vibration that we send out is negative, and that serves one purpose: to feed the darker and denser energies, which are the ones who have a tight hold on the good people.

Why, would we want to do that? If we are a true lightworker we will work through our 3rd density thinking and change whatever it is that is no longer serves us.

Living from the heart takes courage. To teach only love, takes courage. It takes the inner strength to overcome the reactions of the ego, and transform them into a response of compassion rather than the “I am right, listen to me” attitude. This attitude is why our world is in turmoil at this very moment. A battle of Ego’s on both sides.

I grew up with this type of attitude all around me, it was a learned way of thinking. There is nothing here that I have described, that I have not experienced, and continue to experience. It is still hard work to maintain the vibration that I am at now and to stay in my heart center. But then again no one ever said the path of the lightworker was going to be an easy one. You would think that teaching only love is about fluffy feel good stuff that keeps you in the light at all times. It is not. It is a lot of hard work, to constantly keep ourselves in check and really work on the things that we know are not serving us.

If your intention is to beat the ego and let the heart prevail, you have already took a step in the right direction on the path. In the end you will prevail. Take care my friends.

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   Deb Estep says:

   January 17, 2008 at 8:50 am

   Hello Charles,

   MAN….. I am so very happy that you reached out to me via email. Reading your blog feels like finding a long
   lost bro.

   Just this morning my daughter related a story of something that happened at her place of work last night.
   She’s a server in a rather ‘upscale’ restaurant. One of her co workers, Kristen, a young woman in her very early 20’s collapsed at work last night.
   Kristen passed out and hit her head on the side of a counter. She lost consciousness for a few seconds, tried to stand and then passed out again.
   A call was made to 911 immediately.

   4 EMS and 2 policemen came through the front door of the facility and went to the kitchen area where they had taken the young woman.

   Another server went around to Kristen’s tables to access and make sure what was needed at each one. All of the customers except one party were highly concerned for her well being.
   The one group immediately said to their replacement server….
   “Will this affect our order” ?
   “Why in the world did they have to come
   through the front door, couldn’t they have just comet through the kitchen area to attend to her”???
   Since their order had just been taken by Kristen, the other server went over the hand written notes to confirm their order.
   AND………. wouldn’t you know it, their order still arrived not quite right.
   The table raised such a fuss, with absolutely no concern at all for the server’s health.
   Their $90 bill was reduced to $30 and they left a
   very disgraceful tip.

   IF the ego of the spokesperson for that table had just taken a slight backseat to themselves, perhaps a bit of humanity might have shown through.

   My job this morning was in calming my daughter down. Nicole is 25.
   I explained to her that she was allowing those people to get to her. I pointed out that the majority of Kristen’s tables were caring and concerned as I am certain the majority of everyone who witnessed the event was too.

   Nicole said that Kristen refused to be transported to the hospital.
   We don’t know the entire outcome, but another server was planning on taking her home to his house where is Mom is a nurse of over 30 years. Hopefully the mom would have highly encouraged her to get to the hospital.

   I had not thought about ego in context to this event
   until I read your post.

   Again… thanks for dropping by and for the
   connection to your site.

   Warmly
   Deb Estep
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   Charles Hamel says:

   January 17, 2008 at 2:17 pm

   Hi Deb

   Thank you for your wonderful comment!

   Wow what a story…. Unfortunately I have to deal with people just like you mentioned on a daily basis, and most of the time I really feel pity for them. I know in the long run they will have to work out their own Karmic consequences, but it is a shame to be so self centered.

   That is exactly why I write the articles that I do, to try and give all of us a nudge in the right direction. Egotistical 3rd density thinking keeps us chained to this physical earth.

   I don’t know about all of you, but I don’t want to be stuck here forever.

   Take Care and hope you visit often, as I will to your Blog.
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   Liara Covert says:

   January 17, 2008 at 8:09 pm

   Each encounter is an opportuntity to learn about ourselves and our reflex reactions. If we believe being dispondant rather than compassionate is wrong and even disrespectful, then what does it say about us when we struggle to forgive and show compassion to such people?

   One of my own ego lessons occurred as the result of meeting and interacting with a very negative woman. She was someone I couldn’t avoid entirely although initially, this would’ve been my preference. Something deep within my soul, perhaps due to how much I care for this woman’s child, prompted me to phone her and to visit relatively regularly. I came to learn that her negativity stemmed from never having been shown real love or compassion. She was only projecting how she felt about herself. I invited her to help edit a motivational book I was writing. She has since evolved in very positive directions as the result of being shown through example the power of love can take different forms but begins within.
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   Charles Hamel says:

   January 17, 2008 at 10:18 pm

   Thanks for your comment Liara

   What a awesome way to help someone without them knowing they are being helped. That is a great description of reverse psychology if I have ever heard of one.

   I am glad it worked out for her, and you will be rewarded also. What can be better by helping others while helping yourself.

   Love and Light
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   Deb Estep says:

   January 18, 2008 at 6:41 am

   Kristen did go to a medical center. My daughter
   did not know all the details, but apparently she was found to be anemic. She worked last night with Nicole and seemed to be okay.

   Thank you Liara for this comment…

   <>

   xo xo
   Deb
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   Deb Estep says:

   January 18, 2008 at 6:43 am

   Ops by putting around your comment that made it disappear.

   I meant, this comment.

   “Each encounter is an opportuntity to learn about ourselves and our reflex reactions. If we believe being dispondant rather than compassionate is wrong and even disrespectful, then what does it say about us when we struggle to forgive and show compassion to such people?”